Growth Mindset, Positive Psychology

How To Not Quit, Not Be Bored, And Find Success In Everything

I originally answered this as to a quora question. I absolutely love quora because of the breadth of information can be found there, especially subjective answers to things not otherwise found on Wikipedia. I do love Wikipedia as well – though I think of them as complementary rather than competition. 

The original question was:

I tend to quit things when I start getting really good at them. How do I stop doing this?

It might have to do with boredom – as you get a surface level understanding of things, the marginal utility you get out of learning new things gets smaller.

You know, say, a few techniques of drawing and therefore can draw something from scratch. You’ve done it already, so there seems to be no motivation for you to continue to dig deeper. You may also be looking for intellectual stimulation that pays off right away.

I would prefer to not think about “failure” at all, because no matter what you do, failure is just bringing you one step closer to where you want to be, with different results.

When you’ve failed, you’ve still accomplished something, just not what you wanted to. Another way to think about “failure” is perhaps that you don’t know everything and the more you learn – different techniques, different moves, different mental model – the better off you’ll be.

If it helps, the way evolution works is also through *failure*. In the sense that it makes small errors in replicating DNA and manages to create new life.

Your failures may help you create new and interesting discoveries which you wouldn’t otherwise. It’s just part of the process!

This answer, of course, is based on a surface level understanding of what you’re trying to ask.

If it is the case that you get bored easily and/or are looking for instantaneous intellectual stimulation. Perhaps setting short term and long term goals and deadlines might help.

For Chess, I use the app and try to solve 1 puzzle daily. It’s not much, but it gets me 1 game closer.

I used the same technique to run a marathon 5 years ago and continue to run to this day. A little at a time, (3–5k a day, then 1k more every 2 weeks) and I had a sense (at least partially) what my end goal was.

Hope this helps.

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