Growth Mindset, People Skills

The Two Steps To Developing Self Confidence

There’s at least two ways in which one can develop self confidence.

  1. Do something meaningful to you.
  2. Improve self talk.

The first one will help you develop hard skills while the second one will help you develop soft skills.

Let’s tackle each one.

By doing something meaningful to you, you’re realising your efficacy. Self-efficacy is the belief that you can do a given task well. The better you can do things, the more confident you will feel. This task could be anything – working out, watching movies and writing about them, blogging, answering questions on Quora, even finding a hobby and making something out of it. You have to be able and willing to create.

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Then, we have self talk. Most people suffer in this region. Self talk can be the way you talk to yourself (“Gosh I’m such an idiot”) or how you talk to others about yourself. You have to improve the words you use to describe yourself. “I am not yet proficient but with time I’m confident that I will be”.

This requires a level of self awareness that you have to commit to developing. This is not going to be easy, it’s not going to be quick. Our brains are wired a certain way and changing those habits can be trying. But we must try, and realise our best selves – because there’s no other way to live.

Realise that there’s a difference between being arrogant and being confident. The former is a trouble maker while the latter brings humility with it.

Be confident, be humble, be willing to learn. Above all be willing to create something to improve your worth in your own eyes.


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